Life & Business


by Adam J. Kurtz

Seeking & Accepting Help From Others
As creative, hands-on people, there’s an incredible amount of pressure to do things ourselves. That mindset may be what got you to where you are: accomplishing goals you set for yourself, turning a passion into a job, or building your dream home bit by bit. As a result, you now feel invincible. You might have even made yourself a needlepoint or woodblock print that says “I can do anything.” But can you, reeeeaaaaally?

There are a lot of things that we need. We need websites! We need to give our employees health insurance! We need a 60-second video pitch for Shark Tank! It’s not easy, but it’s time to learn how to seek and accept help. You’re the best at your thing, and you rely on clients and customers to need you. Now it’s time to go need someone else. A paintbrush is a tool and so is an accountant. Use both to create beautiful work. –ADAMJK

Seeking & Accepting Help From Others
Identify Need
Try It Yourself
Be Objective
Give Up
Find Help
Accept It
You Did It


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Adam J. Kurtz Adam J. Kurtz is a Brooklyn-based artist and author of several books including the international-bestselling 1 Page at a Time journal. His dark (but optimistic) humor comes to life in an offbeat line of gifts and small trinkets. Follow @ADAMJK for more.


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    It’s so hard for business owners to let go of control, but it’s essential to growth. Always hire people who are better at that task than you are, and you’ll go far. Thanks for putting this together in such an easy to understand way.

  • “…who you can afford to hire or compensate fairly”

    needs to be on it’s own page. In bold.

  • One really great thing about going through these stages is that in the beginning, when you do try it yourself, you develop an appreciation for what the task involves.

    There are so many business owners who have no idea how their accounting works, or their website, etc…But, being familiar with what it takes to make those things work in your business is really important- it also is a great way to make sure you hire the people you really need and will benefit with. I like that instead of just handing it off immediately, this starts off with giving it a try, yourself.

  • These thoughts are wonderfully put and very helpful to anyone who is beginning or continuing in business.

  • So relevant to my life right now! I’m applying to jobs on the opposite coast and have found that people are willing to help as long as you ask for it. I reached out to established professionals, openly asking for advice and guidance. I was never turned away from people who wanted to help. It was a breath of fresh air to see people genuinely eager to help. But none of this would have happened if I didn’t hind the help and communicate with them.