Practicing Mindfulness At Home: The Need + Want Equation

Design*Sponge | Practicing Mindfulness At Home

A few months ago, Martha Stewart broke her iPad. And, as one is wont to do in our socially-networked age, she tweeted about it. In response, The Internet did what it is wont to do in such a situation and fired back with its trademark level of totally irrational venom. As Martha tweeted about the state of her broken iPad and wondered aloud about getting it repaired, first responders were quick to point out that, Martha, you can probably afford a new iPad. Stop complaining. As I read through these various responses, though, I couldn’t shrug the faint feeling I had of shameful self-recognition. My preliminary reaction to Martha’s initial tweet wasn’t Wow! Good for her for getting things fixed! It was, why would somebody who could clearly afford to simply replace her device go about trying to repair it? And then, in that moment, I realized how truly sick my entire generation is. While Martha, bless her heart, still seems to be operating under the WWII-era “Waste Not, Want Not” mentality into which she was born, more recent generations tend to subscribe to a—let’s face it— “Waste A Lot, Want A Lot” world view.

This month at Design*Sponge, we have been pondering the idea of “mindfulness,” especially as it applies to our area of expertise—design and the home. For me, the idea of mindfulness at home begins with the understanding that the “home” expands well beyond the walls of our respective dwellings—it is the outside world, the environment we live in, the air that we breathe. Too often, I see myself and others around me falling into the trap that snares many a post-Baby Boomer American—the idea that our world (and our home) is only what we see in front of us. And this idea is surprisingly, terrifyingly easy to accept. As consumers in the western world, we are wildly separate from the items we consume, live with, and ultimately dispose of. Objects arrive on sanitized store shelves as if by magic and we grab them up, caring little about their point of origin or method of manufacture. At home, we use these objects until they fulfill their purpose, they break, or we simply grow tired of them. Then—more often than not—we put them out on the curb where they are taken away just as magically as they appeared. The average person sees only a tiny fraction of an object’s full life span. We don’t see the sweatshop conditions within which our heavily marked-down products are made. We don’t see the finite landfills where our trash is ultimately hauled off to. We often speak of purging or decluttering our houses at this time of year—but what does that really mean? We are simply handing off our things, displacing them from the visible part of our home to the part of it that we’d rather imagine doesn’t exist.

So. What is the solution? Believe me, I have been trying to figure that out for years. But mindfulness—that term we keep coming back to this month—mindfulness seems like an awfully good place to start. Being mindful of where your products come from, mindful of how you will use them, and mindful of what you can do to fix them if and when they break. Most especially, though, mindful of whether you really even want them in the first place, because this seems to factor into all of the above. I realized a little while ago that many of the products I purchased in the past where placeholders—shoddy constructions that I bought for their low price tag and the fact that they simply did their job (until breaking, that is—which they were bound to do sooner than later). The thing about buying things in this way, though, is that once one of these “placeholder” items break—you don’t really want to fix them. After buying it on the cheap (oftentimes because its costs had been externalized to the environment and underpaid workers), the time or cost involved in repairing it just seems silly compared to simply replacing it. This is, when you think about it, clearly not sustainable.

There is, however, a little trick I’ve been using to avoid this pitfall and curb my own wasteful consumption. All of my purchases, or at least most of them, are made with this simple equation in mind: NEED + WANT, or better yet, NEED+LOVE. When I make a purchase with just one half of these equations in play, whether out of necessity or lust, I will likely only contribute to the ongoing cycle of needless, wasteful consumption. Purchasing with both sides of these equations, though, assures that I will likely use my purchase and hold onto it for a long time.

Here’s a good illustration. Over the past several years, I’ve gone through countless winter coats. Purchased at any one of the faceless stores in the shopping mall, they are easy on the wallet and, for a short time, on the eyes. Without fail, however, after a good winter of wearing, these poly-blend coats will have all but disintegrated, their toggles missing and their fabric misshapen into an unrecognizable, faux-wool blob. In the end, I realized that this was no better for the environment than it was for my own wallet. In an effort to spend less money, I ended up spending more money in the long-run on products I only sort of wanted—products that are now cluttering my closet… or a landfill. In an effort to kick this bad spending habit, I finally bit the bullet and invested in a wonderful coat that I can actually get behind—in terms of quality, comfort, aesthetics, origin, and manufacture. The fact that I actually invested thought, time, and saved pennies into this item makes me actually care for it, so much so that when it frays or breaks, I am quick to repair and maintain it. It should also be noted—something need not cost a lot for it to be a treasure. I have found dozens of things I hold equally dear in thrift shop bins, sale racks, and vintage stores—the key is waiting for what you love!

Over the past few years, I have put these consumption equations into effect around my home. Do I really love this couch? This lamp? This coffee maker? No? Well, I suppose I can make do without a seating area, a reading light, and coffee—at least for the time being. Patience is a virtue—especially, as it would appear, in one’s living space. Learning to wait for the right item (and saving the necessary pennies if it’s expensive) can be difficult, especially for a Gen-Y-er like myself! The pay-off, though, can be great. I can now say that, with few exceptions, I love and care for just about everything in my home. Few purchases have been made without consideration and love (or, if you will, mindfulness) and my home couldn’t be happier!

One of the keys to mindfulness, I think, is self awareness. The ability to see one’s flaws, to know that one will always have flaws, and to confront and claim responsibility for these flaws on a daily basis. I didn’t want this post to come off as too didactic, because in all honesty, I’m not sure how much I have to teach in this regard. I don’t pretend to be perfect or to know all of the answers. What I do know is that we’re all in this together. The important thing is to keep an open mind, to learn as much as you can, and to actively move towards making yourself a better person. Here’s to mindfulness at home, at work and everywhere in-between! —Max

m.k.

Bravo! Great post. Every Thursday evening when I am gathering up my recycling I become more aware of the quantity of plastic containers I am throwing out and think a bit longer about whether I can re-use the container for a few more uses before throwing it out.

Heather

Very well written. I love this idea and am so happy to see this discussed.

Kate

Max, thank you very much for writing this article. Your perspective is enlightening, and it’s nice to know others are thinking about these things.

Laura

Very insightful. Quality over quantity is a great practice for life.

Hannah

I’m loving these mindfulness posts as I try to declutter my apartment and life, and not feel bad about getting rid of things that aren’t adding value (either practical or happiness). I’d love to hear more about this.

Julia

I found myself nodding along to pretty much everything in this post. I’ve tried very hard to break the Gen-Y mold and purchase items I not only love and will use over and over, but that I know will last. To me, the benefit to my quality of life and my impact on the earth far outweighs the added cost and time spent hunting.

Kate Thomas

Great philosophical wondering. This is a much needed conversation. I often think what we really need to do is focus on resource management because we have so much already. How can we share with each other and redistribute to those who would like what we have?

Nicole

This is exactly what I’ve been feeling for some time. We buy things so frequently, but often don’t appreciate anything. I’ve also been sorting/purging/reevaluating –both materially and emotionally — and your essay, Max, sums up the experience wonderfully.

maggie

This is such a lovely post. I am in the midst of decluttering my life and will not allow myself to get “new things” until I have donated/properly disposed of/used up some of the many things that I currently have. Even though I have only been mindfully practicing this for a month, it is amazing how much money I have saved!

Kurk

Max, fantastic article. It brings to mind a saying I heard a few years back that I have tried to impliment into my life. “We are too poor, to buy cheap.” Obviously this probably doesnt technically apply to many people reading this blog, as you said, you continued to purchase cheap jackets until the realization came that it was a waste.

I have tried to use this method anytime I buy now, be it shoes, tools, kitchen appliances and household goods. How nice it is to own a product that you can stand behind and know where it came from and the conditions in which it was made, and you know most of these products are worth the price because rarely do I have to fix or replace them.

Thanks!

katie

So, so good. The need vs want struggle is so real. But it’s so true that when you purchase too many “wants”, you’ll end up not loving them.

Kandy

Thank you for this! I am grateful that my grandfather taught me waste not want not while I was growing up. Granted he may have taken the waste not to hoarding levels, but he always had what he needed to fix things. I started teaching a class called Wardrobe Revamp when I found out people were throwing clothes away because they lost a button. Definitely going to spread the idea of mindfulness.

Allie K

Great article. I agree that this is a topic that needs to be discussed. One point that I would argue is that this is not as much a generational thing as a community thing. As a twenty-something myself, I know people my age whose buying practices fall all over the spectrum, but within my community (all ages included) discussions about re-use and investing in quality are favorite topics and points of pride.

Our generation gets roped into everything from being the next Greatest Generation to being the potential downfall of society. Maybe it’s too broad of a stroke to paint.

Thanks again for this insightful article. It’s a great topic and I always love your writing.

Candace

I totally resent the fact that this society we live in is so wasteful. Why do we need electronic item upgrades every five minutes? Not everyone is jazzed about the next new thing, sometimes “new” isn’t always better or good. Now whilst I’m not a fan of used or vintage items, I do believe in whatever I buy that’s new, it’s very good quality and well made so I don’t have to keep buying it every year, and adding to the accumulation of “stuff”. I believe strongly in the saying, ‘you get what you pay for’ and buying cheap goods just for the sake of instant gratification is mindless. I try to never get roped into buying things on sale for the sake of it, because really, it’s only a deal if you truly need it. And most sale things aren’t what people need.

And about Martha and her iPad, getting it fixed instead of buying a new one is so Martha! And sure she can certainly afford a case of iPads, but most wealthy people are so because they AREN’T frivolous. Food for thought.

Jessica

This is something I am constantly struggling with, especially in the age of the internet where we are constantly being encouraged to buy, buy, buy. I love that D*S is steering away from the “products” posts and instead posting thoughtful commentary on our consumer culture. Bravo, guys!

Susan

To me, mindfulness goes hand in hand with considering why and whether I really want something…it often begins with asking myself what I am *really* hungry for. Often, it’s not the thing in front of me, that I’m yearning for on impulse, but something else. Mental focus, a healthier body, a hug, more time…

Of course, I do buy myself things I like. But, when I find myself wanting cheap thrills, unhealthy thrills, or a quick fix, at this point, I don’t weaken like I used to.

I really enjoyed this post, and love how you made it relevant to design and living. : )

Katy

I LOVE this post. I’ve been trying to make this shift for the last couple of years and it is HARD, but so, so worth it. Looking forward to learning more about the makers and products you guys love that embody these beliefs on the blog this year.

Monica

thank you for this. We need to re-open the definition of design, it’s been closed around the idea (ideal?) of new for so long.
Mindful consumption isn’t just good for the wallet and environment, but for the more secure sense of self we’d have when we can learn to hold the emotional onslaught of advertising at bay.
It’s a gnarly-dense read, but “the Captains of Conciousness” does a great job describing how a “want” can be shaped to become a “need.” It’s fascinating.

Shoestring Chick

I love this article. Very thoughtful and well written. Agree with Candace above about wealthy people being wealthy because they are not wasteful (sometimes). I use a lot of electronics and when one of them breaks I will scour the internet for a solution/fix before I even think of buying a new one. I have replaced laptop parts, phone parts, monitor parts, etc on my own and learned a lot. I do this because of my background. Growing up in Nigeria there was nothing that couldn’t be fixed with some tape, a screwdriver, a soldering iron, and patience. Lol of course sometimes this was out of necessity since there wasn’t an Apple store down the road. Living in the US has not really changed this for me. I still try to DIY before I buy.

Maggie

Great post Max! “Quality over quantity” is my motto. But I also really like your “need+love” thought, that of course, I will think of the next time I go to purchase something. Thank you for sharing.

Brittany {FF}

Love this post! It was certainly a needed and loved read for me. Well said. I can definitely relate to going for sort of wanted items based on it’s price.

Mokhe

I really enjoyed this article and I hope there are more like this about ‘mindfulness’ to come! Thank you for sharing your experiences and perspectives.

Katie

Great, MINDFUL post! These are thoughts that frequent my decisions as well. Reading Cradle to Cradle in my Sustainable Design class at Pratt about 7 years ago introduced a new and unforgettable perspective on the acquirement (and replacement) of things.

I really like how D*S is incorporating the tertiary (but important!) ideas and problems/solutions that encompass fields of design. Keep up the good work!

Wendy

Wouldn’t it be great if we lived in a society where taxes paid for good health care, education and public transportation for everyone? But those same high taxes increased prices and stopped us from impulse purchases? Because workers were paid a living wage, making all domestic foods and prepared foods more expensive? If corn subsidies ended and the price of veggies was less than supermarket crap? If this mindfulness was not just an individual goal, but a value our government embraced as well.

Shannon

Great post! I’d take it one step further and say that our love affair with rapid-fire consumption cheapens our relationships with our community. Nonstop buying as an activity (especially online shopping) is pretty antisocial, whereas repairing and reusing and, most of all, sharing things with neighbors builds bonds and supports local tradespeople. It’s also important to remember when donating that unless your item is in truly sellable condition suitable for a thrift store, it’s pretty likely going end up in a landfill anyhow. Some donated damaged clothes are sold to textile recyclers, but most is simply tossed or passed on to predatory resellers to be shipped to sub-Saharan Africa. Best to buy thoughtfully and purchase long-lasting products that can be used many, many times and then readily repaired and ultimately recycled completely.

Sasha

Fantastically written, so spot on. Food for thought, thank you for a good tool to implement in my everyday life :)

Caroline

Wow. Thank you for this! The concept of only buying things that qualify as need+love is so beautifully simple and powerful.

Eva

Thanks Max, for (again) a very well written article! I love reading your stuff (just read through almost all the Manhattan Nest posts too, reads just as easily!). I saw a sneak peek on D*S once, about a girl that only had a couple of high quality clothes in her wardrobe, said she didn’t need any more. I thought that was so inspiring and since then I think of that when getting something new (or vintage).
Like you, I got to the point that if something should enter my home, it has to be something… sublime, something perfect. Something we will have and love until it falls apart. Or even better, that it outlives us! Either that or nothing at all. It’s just not worth time, energy or money if it’s just okay-ish.

Rebecca

Such a great post!! I’ve been reading a lot lately about living with less, and am really trying to implement this in my life. I only want things to be useful and also beautiful to me…it’s definitely something I think about all the time with my own line and really make sure the fabrics are going to last, the construction and quality of the sewing will too. When I am getting rid of things I try to donate them if I think anyone could use them, so at least they are going to another home afterwards. My rule is now though not to bring anything into the house that doesn’t fit the love and use rule.

Laura

Thank you, Max. This is something I am slowly learning how to put to practice. Your angle on it was fresh and encouraging!

Janeane Pittman

Thank you for your thoughtful post. It seems it has taken me getting a little older (and hopefully a little wiser) to realize that patience when addressing my own home is a virtue. After years of working with clients that have short deadlines to get things done, I started taking that philosophy to heart. I decided that I would finish my home over time, so what that I still have aunties floral handmedowns mixed with my newer modern stuff. It will come in time, when I find “just the right thing” when I have the funds to purchase it. Or, as I like to call it: my Hurry Up & Wait Challenge. Ah, mindfulness.

Janeane

Kaelyn

So appreciate this. As a designer, I often see my clients buying in hast – items that won’t hold their value, will fade with time. I grew up with a Mom who always talked about needs vs. wants. I look forward to using the Need + LOVE equation

Eileen

Max, great post. I have worked as a consultant in the recycling business for 6 years. I feel like I am climbing Mt. Everest every day. The 3 R’s are in order of importance. Reduce your consumption, Reuse your item and, lastly, recycle it (if it can be). Just because something has a recycling symbol on it does not mean it always gets recycled by the recycling companies. Keep this topic going. You have touched many of us!

jesse.anne.o

This is an excellent post! For the past few years I’ve been trying to approach things this way (buy what you love and need and mend what you can). I’ve actually had cobblers try to turn me away saying that re-soling on my pleather sandals will cost more than it would to buy new sandals. Literally turning down my money. I actually had to stand there and say, “But I would rather repair these and still be able to use them so if you can, I would appreciate it if you would.” And they did. But how backwards is that?

I think there’s a lot that goes into “buying right” as well. I never know how a dress is going to lay or if shoes are going to be comfortable until I wear them a bit. But it’s getting better.

Rebecca

Thank you for your thoughtful article. For a long time (and sadly, for the foreseeable future) I have been struggling with a relative’s frequent shopping excursions to Wal-Mart, where she buys things (cheap, poorly-made things) that inevitably fall apart and/or break and then restart the shopping cycle. Not only is this wasteful and a contribution to a company whose philosophy with which I disagree, it also means that she must again spend money on replacement items. In short, she spends more in the end than she would if she had spent more wisely and on higher quality in the first place. A hard lesson to learn when every cent counts, but one that makes a big impact once we embrace it and learn to wait for what’s really worth it. Again, bravo.

patricia

As someone who grew up in the 70’s I had a lifestyle that was about reclaiming, recycling and DIY, as did almost everyone that I knew. I have always bought the best that I could afford, so I have fewer material items but I have only had things that I really loved and used. We all knew how to sew, knit, paint or figured out how to do it. But products were made so much better then, before the introduction of so much cheap China product. Thrift stores were full of beautiful clothes made of natural fibers that were beautifully made and so so cheap. I still have a cashmere sweater that I bought in the early 80’s for a few dollars and still wear. I recently had to buy a new coffee maker as my BRAUN that I had since 1990 finally died. The flip side is that my electrolux vaccum died after two and a half years. To repair it would have been $300.oo. I think that it is great that there has been so much awareness of consumerism
in America and some simple choices can be made to support quality and local suppliers. Thanks Max for writing from the heart.

Camilla @ Something Is Done

Thank you for this great reminder. As a stay-at-home-mom I constantly find myself trolling the mall with my daughter and mindlessly buying stuff on sale that I don’t really need. It has really hit home with me this January how stressful all that clutter is in my home and I’m trying to streamline my home this year. I find that often I buy things because I want to beautify my home or be creative with color. I’ve decided that instead of fulfilling that creative urge by buying something, I’m going to sew something, craft, or paint instead. When I’m at the mall, instead of buying new stuff, I look at the store displays for inspiration instead. We’ll see how long this lasts =).

Jeannie

I think this is a great post! And I commend Martha Stewart for wondering publicly about fixing her iPad…hopefully she really does get it repaired! I think it’s hard for DesignSponge because you talk about many cool products, but many of those products are from stores like IKEA that have many questionable practices. Or, you post about giving brand new IKEA products a makeover. It seems contradictory to see those posts, and yet read these thoughtful and complicated entries.

amy

Nice article, Max! The “placeholder” concept resonates strongly with this gyspy girl. Moving frequently for the last 8 years has ingrained a lot of bad furnishing and decorating habits. Now that we’re finally staying put for a few years, I’m having to undo all those “good enough” purchases and actually get things that are “just right.” It’s hard to find what you want, and expensive, and most of all, taxing on my limited Gen-Y patience, but so worth it in the end. If I’d been patient and made good choices in the beginning, it would have been cheaper overall! (Arg. Hindsight.)

I’ve been thinking about mindfulness a lot this month in terms of food (my blogging area of expertise). January brings to mind all those salad- and smoothie-centric diets and cleanses, and in a mindfulness paradigm, they don’t make sense. Why focus on fresh produce when basically nothing is growing in this hemisphere? I’m making a point of pinning all those great salad recipes for July, and sticking to carrots & sweet potatoes for the near future. It’s not satisfying to forego those canteloupes in the store right now, but I know the fresh market melons in July will be crazy-ridiculous-OMG good compared to today’s instant gratification.

Emma

Great article Max. I think your approach towards to purchasing is something we could all benefit from if we adopted it.

Carolyn Clarke

I agree with you wholeheartedly and I try to use the KISS (Keep It Simple, Stupid) when I purchase most things. Your comment amount need vs want is dead on and it does take some time to figure it out and patience is the ultimate virtue in this case. I’ve also discovered that I am more likely drawn to an object if it is made of wood or metal or cloth. I am well aware that plastic is ubiquitous in the production of things like phones and computers, etc, but if I can, I also find myself gravitating to elemental items. For example, I love IKEA for some basic things because the quality is decent and price is reasonable, but I find that the items I buy are usually made of wood and solid wood if I can find it. That may also be the reason for my love of vintage wooden furniture, or real glass containers (which are so much easier to clean than plastic) and real linens.

rebecca m.

I love this post! I really enjoyed your “Aha!” moment from buying coats. I think many people buy cheap because that’s what they can afford at that particular time, but as you said, it’s more expensive in the long run – financially and environmentally. My husband and I have been moving towards more mindful purchases for awhile. And now that we have our own house, we’re especially careful about filling our home with things we need + love.
And as for those new, upgraded gadgets…we should really think about what happens to the old ones when we put them out to the curb. Yes, they “magically” disappear, but where do they go? Our excessive lifestyle, including our trash, is becoming a problem for others. We just don’t see it so easily.

Ellen M.

Great article! My mother had a saying … “going broke to save money”. I would guess many of us are guilty of being seduced by sale prices and bulk buying. It would be great if environmental thoughtfulness becomes the new conversation going forward.

Michael

Really great to read this. We all need to think more about the externalized costs of our cheap stuff.

I lived for a couple of years in a country where you could find someone to fix just about anything. I had the lining of my winter coat replaced, a rolling suitcase repaired, and I even got an umbrella fixed. I think about that every time I see piles of broken $10 umbrellas from CVS in the trash after a particularly windy storm. I really hope the ethos of “fix before replace” comes back.

Tanya

This is another great post, Max. I find it so telling that people’s reaction about Martha’s iPad problems was so presumptuous. I agree that partly, it’s the consumerist culture, but oh, wow, I find it amazing (and not in a good way) that people felt like they have a right to tell someone what to spend their money on. It’s not like Martha was like, “Hey, guys, should I fix it or should I spring for a new one?” Yet people felt like they knew better and had a right to determine what her spending priority should be.

Also, as a transplant from Europe, it horrifies me how much waste occurs in this country. Big box stores are horrible! I don’t think it’s generational thing at all, because I’ve seen people of all ages waste things, though, of course, the younger people do it more, since they grew up immersed in the world where everything it marketed to them till they are oversaturated.

Anita

As a one-time professional organizer, I saw many people who were prisoners of their “stuff” and it caused me to take a look at my own life as a consumer. I helped my children de-clutter by holding things up one at a time and asking, “do you love it?” and they were, at first, shocked to learn that it was ok to part with something that was a present from papa and me or another loved one. We’re big thrift-ers, aka recyclers, and have a practice that, for every item that comes in, another must go out, so there’s a constant positive flow of in and out, and the “out” becomes someone else’s treasure.

I also live in a lovely little village that, each year, hosts a giant purge where unwanted items are put at the curb and residents are free to help themselves. Yes, the rest is taken away to the landfill, sadly, but I suppose some trash is inevitable.

My home is the place I’d rather be than anywhere else on most days and nights, because a lot of mindfulness has gone into the way it looks and feels. A $100 bottle of wine may be opened on a $3 yard sale tablecloth on which is placed my collection of mix-and-match plates and that feels great.

Thank you for this post and for hosting the discussion.

LS

Great post; YES.

One very simple thing I do when shopping for anything, is to think about what will happen to it eventually in a landfill or in recycling. It prevents me from buying much plastic. If I have to buy plastic I try to be sure it’s something which will last for a very long time.

Tara

Excellent article. We live on a farm in a modest brick bungalow. Our furniture has been accumulated over many years from thrift stores or bought second hand. Last week, my daughters and I went into a Walmart for the first time in over a decade. It was so very sad. Just stuff and more stuff to consume. The whole place smelled of plastic from the crappy things marked down to the lowest price. I think good design and good taste naturally blooms from creative thinking, individuality, and from the talents of a human being.

Our clothes are vintage. Our winter coats are beautifully made of wool or down. They were inexpensive. We have repaired zippers and patched pin holes where feathers tried to escape. We don’t go to the mall. Our girls, all into fashionable clothes/art/design guffaw at paying $60 from a shirt made in China. They just refuse to do it.

Because we live in the country, we have to bring our garbage to the dump (no roadside garbage pickup here). Every time I go, I wish I could bring people from the city and show them the mind blowing waste: sofas, beds, chairs, tables, refrigerators, and what is it with all those hundreds of barbecues?! Guess everyone is getting bigger ones?

We are always striving to be less of an impact on this earth. It takes concerted, daily effort. Sometimes it feels a little isolating. My husband is a medical doctor. We socialize with people that drive expensive cars they upgrade every year or two, who have houses with bedrooms that would hold half our house etc. They must think we’re wing nuts.

It makes me said that our human experience on planet earth centres around consumption instead of excavating our true purpose (whatever that may be for each of us). You’re a smart cookie, Mr. Tielman. p.s. love the direction Desigm Sponge is taking in 2014!

Jamie

Your thoughts/essay were eloquent. Need + love. Easy to remember. Replacing want with love. Hope to keep the idea with me as I navigate my days.

Sarah D.

It’s very nice to see DS take the conversation in this direction. Well done, folks!

Nomi

Fantastic post!!!! I couldn’t agree with you more. Well written. This is such a great reminder.

FPK

really glad you are bringing this subject to light. i think we all need to think about the way our lives impact our environment WAY more often. out of sight is out of mind when throwing away stuff. i am extremely mindful of waste from food, packaging, clothing, materials, etc. this sometime paralyzes me however. i find myself saving stuff i have ideas about re-purposing or recycling in some way. i shop mainly at thrift stores and volunteer on a farm in the summers in exchange for food. there are lots and lots of ways people can reduce their carbon footprint and reduce their impact on the environment – the way is through being mindful.

Stephen @ Feeding My Folks

Perfectly said….I’m forwarding this to a few of my spend-happy friends. I’m definitely a thrifty ol’ curmudgeon who shops until I find something I love…but even I have unnecessary overflow. Thanks for this post, Mr Max.
You’re an insanely talented writer, fyi.

Mai

One of my resolutions this year was “mindful consumption” and you’ve captured my intent perfectly in this post. Thanks!

Katy Gilmore

What a great, thoughtful post – and this is praise from the
Martha generation – I hope you absolutely adore your winter coat,
and it makes you happy with each wearing!

Sarah

Profound and crucial post. The importance of the idea of our home extending to the natural world around us and the air we breathe can not be overstated, it’s literally life or death. The natural world is the greatest source of beauty and inspiration to design and without it we are nothing.
Thank you for your wonderful blog!

Emily S

Poignant and timely. The world needs more mindfulness. Well done, and I’m excited read your further explorations of the subject!

Anna

Wow! this is such a great post. To be honest when I saw such a long test my first thought was to close the window or skip to the next post but then something stopped me. And I don’t regret even a tiny bit reading it! Absolutely bravo. This is so true, so right to say and so sad that so few people (on a world-large scale) understand how important is what you are trying to explain.

Jessica E.

Wonderful post and an excellent message! Especially to
those of us who are part of the “Waste a lot, want a lot” crowd.
It’s a very interesting experiment to sit down and take stock of
the things that you really do truly need and want in your home,
versus those things that you think you want/need, and then compare
that to the things you’re only after because everyone else is
getting them. (A trap I find myself falling for time and again.) We
could all do with a little more mindfulness this year.

Jackie

Wasn’t it William Morris who said that we should strive to keep nothing in our home that we do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.

With so many beautiful tools around, one might even be able to require that useful items are both…

Jeannette

I’ve always been a fan of buying the best quality of something (within a budget) and with an eye toward making it last, especially with clothing. When I’ve figured out the cost-per-wearing, or even cost-per-season, for winter coats, for example, it comes to some ridiculously low number. Even if I had the money to throw away on clothing and accessories, I wouldn’t do it. Less, not more and better quality.

I have friends of all ages who are constantly asking why I bother to get things fixed and repaired. “Just buy new.” Well, first of all, when you have something you love, you want to keep it until it literally falls apart or cannot be repaired

We’ve had to replace a few things over the years in the kitchen. Let me say first off: Newer is NOT better. Today’s trend seems to be something that looks nice new but functionality, especially in appliances, does not match things from recent decades. Stuff is now made to fall apart. (When a refrigerator broke down within the five-year warranty, most people just buy new. This is insane. Especially for those of us whose incomes do NOT keep up with the pace of inflation.

Really thinking about what you truly “need” or love and learning patience to wait until/if you can afford it, is something a lot of folks, of all ages, don’t seem to be able to do anymore.

A few years ago we started to think even more clearly about how we were spending and what we were getting for our money. It was forced on us because of severe cutbacks in our income. It isn’t pleasant, given the continually rising costs of things you can only cut back so much (food, healthcare, gas), but it really made us rethink where we were getting a real return on our investment of our dollars.

Tay

Hi Max, great that you are thinking about this stuff. Great also that you are breaking away from auto-pilot and not buying into conspicuous consumption. To someone from outside North America it is mind-blowing that there would even be a debate about whether Martha Stewart should get a new ipad!

I think you are right about an important part of mindfulness being self-awareness (or paying attention to our own experience). I however would not agree that it’s about knowing your “flaws” – infact true mindfulness is about being non-judgemental and just seeing something for what it is, not whether it’s good or bad.

I use a lot of mindfulness in my work (I’m a psychologist for with people with Schizophrenia) and it is important to emphasis that mindfulness is about paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgementally (and the non-judgementally is both the hardest and most important part of mindfulness).

Good luck with your mindful endeavours ;) can’t wait to read more about them!

Erin

I can totally relate! Thanks for the reminder. I have a hard time with this self-awareness sometimes. A yoga class I took in fall helped. I recommend yoga and meditation to others seeking mindfulness. I need to get back on track though.

Jackie

Just wanted to point out an interesting comparison between your post here and Grace’s about her less-than-perfect-but-functional Container Store shelving. How would you balance the need to make a place livable with the desire to wait around for an item you truly love? (As someone only a few years out of college and now one year into grad school, this is something I struggle with everyday!)

Laura

This article is one of the very reasons that my small company, Bees and Buttercups, does it’s best to sell Handmade goods & gifts that are both beautiful & practical. So many people forget about where their products come from & what happens to them when they seem no longer useful. It is great to see more of the 20 & 30 somethings becoming aware of their purchases & their footprint on this world. I hope greater support for handmade & local shopping continues to grow

Angelo

So simple and true. I learnt about this living for a year in South East Asia. First, once I was there, I realised soon that I really needed just half of the things packed in my big suitcase. Second, I noticed that a lot of clothes and objects I closed in boxes before leaving remained in the basement when I came back because I never felt the need to unpack them. Now I think much more when I want to buy or I need something and I became aware that there are not so many things that I really need or desire. By the way, which coat did you buy eventually?

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